Yesterday I received an invitation to attend a seminar entitled “Dealing with Difficult People.”
After years in the workforce and raising children, I have been invited to learn how to deal with difficult people. For a minute, I thought I should be the person putting on this seminar.
Apparently, according to the booklet that I received there are different categories of difficult people.
The know-it-alls. We all know one of these kind of people. I’ve learned that they in fact don’t usually know as much as they think they know. Maybe they are just trying to convince themselves.
The Passives. I know these people as the ‘enablers’. They are the people who never let you know where they stand on issues. That’s because they want to be able to have the ability to change their opinions in time to ‘rescue someone’ by enabling them. These people are good with taking orders on little tasks, like manning the front desk. They like it because it keeps them away from the difficult situation of having to enable someone.
The Dictators. They will bully and intimidate, according to the seminar people. They can be demanding and critical. Actually, we have all known someone who is busy telling everyone else what to do and does nothing else. The useless micromanagers will fall into this group. As an adult, I have learned to respond “feel free to do it yourself.”
Oh, and micromanaging adults doesn’t work.
The “Yes” People. They say yes to everything and that’s the last you hear from them. They fail to follow through. The worst ones are the ones that will finish your sentence for you, giving you the impression that they are understanding and agreeing.
The “No” people. They love to say “can we?”. I love to say, “put a “how” in front of your “can”.
And Finally, the “Griper”. They waste more time, money, energy, and effort bit@#ing and moaning. I find that being around these people is energy sucking in itself. In the end, I feel sorry for these people because they must feel pretty darn bad about themselves to want to bring the rest of us down. I simply don’t have time for it in my day.
The goals of the seminar are;
- To understand the difficult people in your life.
- Learn how to deal with them and what to say.
- How to be less of a target for these people.
- And, how to bring out the best in people.
You know, I bet we could all use a seminar like this. In one day and for $99, they could solve all the problems around us.
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