You know you’ve reached the age of ‘older’ and ‘wiser’ when you learn how to take things in, evaluate them and pick and choose what you’ll keep and what you’ll toss.
Five of the many things I’ve learned along the way include;
Pick and choose your battles. You don’t have to win every contest or argument. As a matter of fact, sometimes you win by letting someone else win. Knowing when to put up a fight and when to walk away can do wonders for your inner stress.
What goes around comes around. It’s true- at least for me. If you eat too much- you’ll gain weight. If you drink too much- well you know. If you use credit too much- you’ll accumulate debt. Of course, the truer meaning of the ‘what goes around’ saying is that you should be good to those around you. Kind of like, ‘the toes you step on today can be connected to the butt you kiss tomorrow”.
Eleanor Roosevelt once said “Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission”. She had a point. If you allow people to talk down to you or use you then they will. Break out of it by learning how to say “no”. “I’ll have to take a pass on it, but thanks” works too.
Most everything goes in cycles. Economists and politicals swear by this. So do fashion people. It’s just human nature to get tired of something, move on to something else, get tired of that, and then remember what you had originally gotten tired of.
Lastly, listen to your mother.
For the first 40 years I fought this tooth and nail and hardly ever won. I only wasted a lot of energy. Then, when I turned 40, I realized that I was becoming my mother and started to look at things from the other side.
Enjoy the rest of your day.