It all started when Oprah asked Jerry Seinfeld about his biggest pet peeve. Jerry responded that it’s a lack of civility.
Jerry’s top three peeves; Cutting people off on the road, BlackBerry or cell phone abuse and interrupting while someone is talking.
Oprah had a few rude behaviors to add to the list. “Mine are people who are chewing gum with their mouth open. I don’t want to see it,” Oprah says. “I also can’t stand it when people are rude to service workers because I think you show who you are by how you treat people who are serving you.”
According to the article, eighty percent of Americans think rudeness is a serious national problem, but 99 percent of the same people say that they themselves are not rude.
Exactly, what does the word “rude” actually mean?
Definitions of rude on the Web:
Technically, to be rude is the same as having bad manners, right?
If you ask me, isn’t it all relative to where you live?
I was raised in a an upscale suburb of Chicago. Everyone was very competitive, stressed out and seemed to be in an aura that they were better than anyone else. Especially better than the people living downstate, where I currently live. Now, when I travel back to the city, I am amazed at how rude the people are in comparison to where I live. Up there you walk down the street and you look the other way when you pass someone. Down here, you walk down the street, smile and say “hello”.
There is a theory that New Yorkers are the rudest people in the nation.
While I have never lived there, I have been around people from New York and I can tell you there is a big difference in the attitudes of these people in comparison to those in a small midwestern town. I’m thinking it has to do with New Yorkers being use to living in cramped quarters yet, being exposed to the best of most everything.
There are some rude behaviors that are everywhere.
Cell phone behavior could be the worst rude behavior universally.
Seriously, when I’m in a hurry to buy my groceries, I don’t care to hear about you date from last Friday night.
Are you rude?
You are probably the worst person to judge your own rudeness.
However, you can prevent the appearance of rudeness, aka, learn good manners by doing the following;
Before you speak; look around to see who may be listening. Will someone be offended? Are you giving too much information?
Public Cell Phone Use; limit it to the essential conversations. Keep the personal conversations to times when you won’t be driving, standing in line, or dealing with another human.
Courtesy is Contagious; It won’t kill you to let someone in line in front of you when you have a full cart and they have one item. Random acts of kindness do benefit everyone.
Kill ’em with Kindness; Want something to go your way? Get your point across as kindly as possible. Yelling and screaming will most likely only get you the opposite of what you actually want.
Don’t yell/hit/ or swear at your kids in public. or anywhere for that matter.
If you really must gossip.…don’t say anything about someone that you wouldn’t say to their face. Make sure your information can be substantiated and is not blown out of proportion.
People hate when they are cut-off or touched while having a conversation with you.
Drive safely. You’re most likely going to get there. Seriously, few people can actually carry on a phone conversation while driving. It’s hard to do. Does weaving in and out of traffic actually get you there faster or does it just inspire other drivers to not let you in?