To many parents, spanking has been a form of child disciplining for decades.
To other parents, spanking is a violent lesson on how to solve problems and it is an easy way out.
Does spanking really solve anything?
Many nations such as Norway, Sweden, Denmark, Finland, Iceland, Italy, Israel, Germany and Austria, have outlawed spanking a child.
The reasoning is that hitting children teaches them to become hitters themselves. This in turn can teach them to become violent as a way to solve problems. Spanking can also distract from other methods of dealing with problems, such as discussion and reasoning, and can interrupt the bond between parent and child.
Case in Point
A few weeks ago I wrote about the 8 year old Arizona boy who shot his father and another man.
Police have claimed from the start that this was a premeditated act and that the child has admitted to it. What drove the child to want to murder his father? Police now say it was because he was spanked.
In a written record of spankings by his parents police say that the boy vowed that the 1,000th spanking would be his limit. According to a police record, the child “is believed to have made ledgers and or communicated in the form of writings about his intentions. (The boy) told a CPS. .. worker that when he reached one thousand spankings. .. that would be his limit. (The boy) kept a tally of his spankings on a piece of paper.
Does this mean, if the father would have sat down and talked things out with the 8 year old instead of spanking him, he would still be alive?
Is 1000 spankings by the time a child is 8 years old excessive and a form of child abuse?