I just read a story about A 56-year-old woman who gave birth to her triplet granddaughters a month ago. It seems like these kind of stories are becoming more common, thanks to new technology.
The mom/grandma Jaci Dalenberg, 56, gave birth to her daughter Kim’s triplets last month after her daughter Kim and her husband could not conceive and planned to adopt.
Dalenberg said she wasn’t frightened to be pregnant at her age.
“I’ve always been really healthy. I did get medical clearance, including psychological testing,” Dalenberg told The Associated Press on Tuesday.
“When we found out it was triplets, I did get really nervous for about four days, but that passed real soon.”
Exactly, what is middle age anyway?
To some, it is the period of life beyond young adulthood but before the onset of old age.
According to Collins Dictionary, this is “… usually considered to occur approximately between the ages of 40 and 60”.
The OED gives a similar definition but with a later start point “… the period between youth and old age, about 45 to 60”.
The US Census lists middle age as including both the age categories 35 to 44 and 45 to 54, while Erik Erikson sees it ending a little later and defines middle adulthood as between 40 and 65.
Technically, middle age means to be at the point that is midway through your lifespan. That is, if you’re going to live to be 100 then 50 is middle age to you, give or take 10 years or so. Of course, do you really know right now how long you’ll be alive for? So, I suppose you’ll have to wing it when you go to decide your own middle age.
So no matter how you define it, I am middle aged.
I found a website, Middle Age.org, that is devoted to middle age.
The founder, Bob Adams, says that he set up MiddleAge.org as a “personal” website in 1998. It was just a few essays describing some of the things he had learned over the years. It never occurred to him that many people would be interested in reading personal essays, so he ignored the site and left it unpromoted.
Here is one of Bob’s essays.
Ten Things We Heard As Children That We Need To Hear Now
Like most adults, I’ve given children advice to get them through the challenges of growing up. One day, facing my own challenges, I heard parents talking to their child and realized that this good advice stays good forever. It never hurts to remember that we are all still growing up.
If you don’t try it, you’ll never know if you’ll like it or not.
No one gets it right the first time.
Practice make perfect.
Don’t worry about what other people say, you do what you know is best for you.
If they laugh at you, just ignore them.
You have to make up your own mind; don’t wait for someone else to do it for you.
Be your own best friend or you’ll be your own worst enemy.
Don’t be afraid to ask questions.
Everybody has to start somewhere.
Someday, you’ll look back at all this and laugh!
This sums up a lot about getting half way through your life.
As for having a child during middle age…that’s between you, your physician, your partner and of course, fate.