This past weekend was quite special for my husband and I. Our daughters hosted a Surprise 35th Wedding Anniversary party for us on Sunday. It’s just mind-boggling how quickly the time went by!
One of the cards we received was from my late-mother-in-law (really, no joke.) To appreciate this, you have to understand that my husband and I have been tending flower beds at her grave site for many years. My sister-in-law’s a graphic artist and marches to the tune of a different drummer. She felt that Mom would want send her Best Wishes.
But first, a little bit of background. My husband’s mother and I got along tremendously, even before she became my mother-in-law. She was a “mompreneur” and female business owner long before the term became fashionable. I worked side-by-side next to her in the cheese and gourmet shop that she owned before and after my husband and I married. After we had kids, my mother-in-law babysat and provided daycare when I returned to work full time.
Fast forward, and I am now a mother-in-law. I like to brag that I hand-picked my charming son-in-law. From the day I met him my Sixth Sense told me that he was “the one” and would make the perfect husband for my daughter.
Life is more complicated now, and when I was given the opportunity to review The Mother-In-Law’s Manual by Susan Abel Lieberman, Ph.D.
“Proven Strategies For Creating And Maintaining Healthy Relationships With Married Children.”
OK, I’ve been the daughter-in-law, and came through that relatively unscathed, most likely because I was the favorite. Actually, I’m the only remaining daughter-in-law after 35 years, because everyone else got divorced.
Not everything is always rosy here in Dysfunction Junction, Connecticut. We have the dubious honor of having coined the term “Bridezilla“. Now that I’m the mother-in-law, I need to find out what I’m
a) either doing right or
b) what I’m doing wrong, and what can I do to make it right
The Mother-in-Law’s Manual speaks to why so many well-intended mothers sometimes miss the mark, how expectations, conscious and unconscious, can lead them astray and how their assumptions can result in painful mistakes.
*No rules – but seven mother-in-law maxims to guide good relationships
*Ways to approach children when mothers-in-law think they may be making a marital mistake
*How to think about grand parenting
*What mothers-in-law might consider about their won aging
*An overview of type and temperament to help explain the differences among family members that can seem purposefully irritating when they are hard-wired personality differences
Included in the book are comments and secrets from mother-in-laws of every color, race, class and disposition. I especially liked one chapter that discussed how as mother-in-laws, we have to give up some assumptions about how incredibly wise and useful we are in our childrens’ lives.
If there’s an upcoming Wedding or Bridal Shower in your family’s future, give this wonderful book as a gift! Share it with your daughter, sister, niece or best friend!
The Mother-in-Law’s Manual is available on Amazon.
For More Information visit The Mother-in-Law’s Manual
Title: The Mother-in-Law Manual: Proven Strategies for Creating Healthy Relationships with Married Children
Author: Susan Lieberman
Genre: Nonfiction/Family Matters
Publication Date: May 2009
Publisher: Bright Sky Press
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