Do you know How to Have a Good Family Life ?

March 18, 2010

 

People are always giving us advice on how to have a good family life. Sometimes, we tend to think we don’t have a good family life and that everyone else does. What I’ve learned from raising kids is that people only show you what they want you to see and often, we see things as the grass is always greener.

Read this if you want to know how to have a good family life. Or, read this if you think you already know.

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Despite the perfect picture families that always seem to loom over us on television, posters and bill boards, there are many more complexities and dynamics to families than all smiles and laughter. All families are different, and all families have their own issues, but with the right amount of work and determination, you can make your family life the best it can be, by developing your relationships and learning more about yourself and your relatives. No one’s family life is perfect; but you can make your’s good, so why not?

Steps

  1. Respect your parents. Do this not just by giving them respect, but by listening to what they say and trying your best to make them happy. Realize that you may be able to choose your friends, but you’re born to your family. If there’s nothing you can do to please your parents, you’ll be happier if you just accept it for now and focus on pleasing yourself. Making others happy is secondary to being happy yourself. And things do change over time.
  2. Realize that life is not always going to go smoothly. Try to face the “ups and downs” in your family life with positive thinking and a cool mind. But your family doesn’t have the right to make you miserable just because they’re family. Try to get along, but if it doesn’t work, let it go.
  3. Try to compromise whenever and wherever it’s possible. When you see that the people who you love most are happy, you will have a feeling of great happiness. You will have to compromise a lot in life; family is the first environment to begin learning this important skill, amongst people who know you best and can guide you with their reactions, thoughts and suggestions. Even the things they don’t tell you become a learning experience.
  4. Give occasional gifts to your family members. Surprise gifts can be great because most people love them. The best gifts tend to be the ones you make yourself, or put a lot of thought into. Also appreciated are gifts of your time; doing tasks around the house that haven’t been done for a while such as painting touch-ups, restoring missing door handles etc. and clearing away clutter.
  5. Be honest with your parents, but bear in mind that they don’t always need to know everything. If you get along well, you can open up, but if you don’t, avoiding tender subjects can keep the peace. Sometimes saying nothing can be better for a family relationship than saying everything. Family is forever. Why fight about the little things?
  6. Feel free to communicate with each and every person in your family. Listen to them when they want to say something; try to be with them when they need you. Bear in mind that the needs of your family don’t outweigh your own. Give them your time and love, not your life.
  7. Dedicate a slot, it may be once a week or once a month in which you have a ‘Family Time’. This could be anything, watching a movie together, playing a game, going out on a trip, but make sure it is something everyone will enjoy.
  8. Eat together. Modern-day life makes this virtually impossible to do, however, it really does change your family life dramatically — for the better.
  9. Make time for siblings. They know you best, and they will tell you the whole truth, even when you don’t want to hear it. As we grow up, our relationships with siblings may not be as strong as we think, but when you’re older you may find yourself grateful for the work you put in now. Be supportive, encouraging and honest.
  10. Accept that your relationship with your family depends on both you and them. If they can’t meet you halfway, you will be happier if you don’t spend all of your energy making all the effort.

Tips

  • Be patient.
  • Compromise is the most valuable tool you have.
  • Sometimes families are just dysfunctional. It happens. You come first.
  • Don’t put everything down to hormones. If your teenager feels reluctant to talk to you, he or she may be upset about something or being bullied. Ask if everything is okay.

Warnings

  • Family members are never entitled to be abusive. If they are, don’t waste your time. They can’t always be won over with patience and kindness. Stay out of toxic situations when you can.

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How do you define a “Good Family Life” and  How do you have a Good Family Life?

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So, ya moving out of momma’s house?

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This person had something amazing to say! 1 Nessa March 18, 2010 at 3:57 pm

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This person had something amazing to say! 2 simple March 18, 2010 at 6:37 pm

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This person had something amazing to say! 3 Dead Daddy March 19, 2010 at 1:31 am

When someone asks you if you liked your family or if you are close to your family, your answer is going to be the 1st thing in your head. That is how i define a good family life.

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This person had something amazing to say! 4 Thom March 19, 2010 at 2:06 am

Love your 7…LOL too funny. Good family life is sharing, being friends and loving :) Have a great Friday :)
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This person had something amazing to say! 5 Sarah March 19, 2010 at 3:21 am

I have a great family life….I would define it as I would rather be here than anywhere else :)
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This person had something amazing to say! 6 Melissa Mashburn March 19, 2010 at 3:49 am

The advice given on How To Have A Good Family was very good. I even liked the warning it gave about abusive family members. Very educational.
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This person had something amazing to say! 7 Auntie E March 19, 2010 at 5:12 am

Having a open communication in the family, going out together and enjoying it, having a family vacation with every one involved. Love and happiness 90% of the time.
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This person had something amazing to say! 8 ShyMama March 19, 2010 at 8:00 am

Stopping by from follow friday. Thanks for dropping by at my site. These are great tips Ms. Harriet. Its hard to have a family life if you or your partner doesn’t know how to compromise.
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This person had something amazing to say! 9 Annie @ Mama Dweeb March 19, 2010 at 8:08 am

Wow, great post!
Good family life….hmmm…..I think just be unselfish and put others first – if everyone did that then we would all have our needs met and be happy together right?

Have a great weekend!
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This person had something amazing to say! 10 LaVonne March 19, 2010 at 8:11 am

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I am now following you as well.

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This person had something amazing to say! 11 Brooke@Brooke'sBargains March 19, 2010 at 8:45 am

Following you back from FF hope you have a great weekend Harriet!!!

This person had something amazing to say! 12 TheAngelForever March 19, 2010 at 9:07 am

To me a good family life is spending quality time with the ones that you love.

This person had something amazing to say! 13 Jason March 19, 2010 at 9:17 am

Hi following back :) Thanks for stopping by!
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This person had something amazing to say! 14 Bibi March 19, 2010 at 10:06 am

I love my family and my family life. I have 100% respect and unconditional love from my husband and my kids and I give it back. My children are praised and encouraged every day. Word LOVE is mentioned in my house many times every day. We love spending time together and vacation without my kids wouldn’t be fun.
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This person had something amazing to say! 15 38traci March 19, 2010 at 10:06 am

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This person had something amazing to say! 16 3 Cuzins @ Cuzinlogic March 19, 2010 at 10:31 am

#1 stop comparing your family to others and trying to be perfect, it’s impossible because there is no such thing. It also entails love, laughter, compromise, understanding, getting through the hard times and everything in between…
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This person had something amazing to say! 17 Frugal Vicki March 19, 2010 at 10:45 am

I would not want to share my life with anyone but my family, so I guess that is good. Now for in-laws etc…I plead the fifth. Like fifty bazillion times.
And if read that drop everything and email me comment…I don’t think it would be a very nice email.
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This person had something amazing to say! 18 Serendipity is Sweet March 19, 2010 at 11:31 am

Hey there,
Great advice on family life!
I try to let things roll off my back and assume that if someone else does something that hurts me or makes me angry that it wasn’t intentional. We all have bad days, tough circumstances and sometimes we’re too busy or preoccupied and make mistakes. Patience and forgiveness go a long way in living peacefully. That said, I also don’t let people walk on me, but will tell them…tactfully if they way I’m being treated is not cool with me.

Have a great weekend Harriet :)

This person had something amazing to say! 19 Sue March 19, 2010 at 12:14 pm

Out of all those I think Compromising is one of the most important. I think my family & I do that. :)

Hope you have a great weekend.
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This person had something amazing to say! 20 Natalie A. March 19, 2010 at 1:04 pm

This is a great post! Thanks for sharing all that information! I believe in those things. I also think helping those in need when they need help is wonderful for family! Thanks for stopping by my blog! Have a great day!
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This person had something amazing to say! 22 Bud Weiser March 19, 2010 at 2:04 pm

You had me at “So, ya moving out of momma’s house?” You are so funny! Thanks so much for playing… :)

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This person had something amazing to say! 25 PinkLady March 19, 2010 at 5:46 pm

no. 5 (dating profiles meme) made me roll in laughter here, Harriet! you are soooooooooo funny! great tips on maintaining a great family life. thanks for sharing. <3
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This person had something amazing to say! 26 PinkLady March 19, 2010 at 5:58 pm

oooopsss… my comment must have been thrown out to your spam because it didn’t show up on this page.

anyway, your no. 5 made me roll in laughter. i didn’t see that coming. LMAO!

you have great family tips. sometimes we all do need some reminding. thanks for sharing them with us. =)

This person had something amazing to say! 27 Melissa March 19, 2010 at 6:32 pm

Hi, I am Melissa….thanks for stopping by my blog! I am now following you from Friday Follow!!

This person had something amazing to say! 28 Upstatemomof3 March 19, 2010 at 6:50 pm

To me a good family life is simply a family that loves each other. In the end the only thing that you will remember and your children will remember is that everyone was loved!

This person had something amazing to say! 29 Kelly from Kelly's Lucky You March 19, 2010 at 7:10 pm

Hi! Thanks for stopping by my blog, but you forgot to follow, would you come back?

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Thanks for coming to my blog, following you back! Happy Friday Follow!

This person had something amazing to say! 32 Steph March 19, 2010 at 11:52 pm

I recommend heeding the warning…stay away from toxic family members. We have one in particular that sucks the life out of us and this has affected our marriage. But when we minimized our contact with them, and when both of us realized this person is in fact toxic, things have improved. Related to this, we recognize that the 4 of us are family and what is best for the 4 of us (i.e. not what extended family wants) is what will lead us to a happy family life.

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This person had something amazing to say! 37 Tina @ Life Without Pink March 21, 2010 at 2:11 pm

What great advice! I know in today’s world it can be very hectic but family should always come first. My hubby works some crazy hours and a lot of overtime but I try to squeeze in family time because I want my boys to grow up and remember those times and instill good family values.

Thanks for stopping by my blog. I am now following you :)

This person had something amazing to say! 38 Mouse March 22, 2010 at 5:46 am

ROFLMAO, great answers, though particularly loving Nos 9 & 10 :)
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This person had something amazing to say! 39 JamericanSpice March 22, 2010 at 6:09 pm

For me a good family life is about balance and always understanding that no matter what we are going through, it will pass and choose carefully how you wish to react because regret can be downright depressing.

Our family life could be better but we are working on it constantly.

Very good information.
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This person had something amazing to say! 41 Cacai M. March 27, 2010 at 12:21 am

Hi, thanks for visiting Cacai M.’s Place
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Cacai’s Steps and Journey and am also a Friday Follow participant with my other two blogs (Cacai M.’s Place
Cacai’s Steps and Journey
, my other blogs are FF participants too… and they all say hi to you.. For the question of Aloha, my answer is: I can define a good family life if the bond is strong to which the family are there for each other through thick and thin much more if the family has a house, education is attainable, good food and clothing and especially are into God’s service.

Have a great day! ~hugs&kisses~

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