Creeped out on Facebook? What were you thinking?

May 16, 2010

Creeped out from a “Facebook friend”? I can relate. It was someone who I personally know. Recently, I have been plagued with the feeling that the person was spying on everyone.  I started to think  this person was always signed on to FB so that he can monitor what everyone else is doing. He’s done a few other things to make me want to make some distance.

Anyway. if you’re creeped out on FB, check this out.

How to Manage Facebook Privacy Options

from wikiHow – The How to Manual That You Can Edit

Starting in December 2009 Facebook changed the default settings to openly publish more of the information you share on the site. Since your Facebook profile is associated with your real name (which anyone, including job interviewers, can search for) you may want to keep more information private. And while you can always make parts or all of your profile private again, once information has been released to the Internet (e.g. search engines), there’s not much you can do to take it back.[1] So if you want to take an active approach towards guarding your privacy on Facebook, follow this guide.
In April 2010 Facebook released Open Graph personalization. To change your privacy settings on tools like instant personalization read How to Opt out of Facebook Instant Graph Personalization.

Steps

  1. Skip the transition tool. If you sign on and see this screen, press “Skip For Now”.Otherwise, you’ll be taken to a privacy settings page that makes some of your information public by default, and doesn’t give you as many options as following the steps in this article.
    • If for some reason you can’t skip the tool, just select all “Old Settings” and then proceed with the following steps to manually adjust your settings.
  2. Move your cursor over the “Settings” button on the right of the top bar and choose “Privacy settings”.
  3. Decide how you’re going to approach privacy on Facebook. Since Facebook has you adjust the privacy settings for every fraction of your profile individually, it can get a little overwhelming. One suggested plan of action is to have two versions of your Facebook profile: The complete version, and the “professional” version. Make a list of friends who are “privvy” to everything on your profile. Then when you adjust the privacy settings, for all of them select “Customize” and “Specific People” and write the name of that list in the box. To anyone not on this list, your profile will seem quite inactive, if they even manage to find it!

Profile Information & Contact Information

  1. From the privacy settings page, click “Profile Information” or “Contact Information”.
  2. Click on the “Change Settings” button on the upper right. You’ll be asked to enter your password. Type it in and click “Confirm”.
  3. Choose the privacy level for each section of your profile and each piece of contact information using the drop-down menus at the right. Here are some points to consider:
    • Be wary of the “Everyone” setting, which will essentially release that information to the Internet, so that anyone, whether they’re on Facebook or not, can access it, copy it, download it, etc. If you ever change this setting to something more private, that’ll only control who can see it on Facebook. But if that information was cached on search engines or downloaded by anyone or posted on any site, there’s no way to control that.
    • Note that networks have been phased out. So if, for example, you wanted only people in your college network to be able to see a certain part of your profile, you can’t filter the settings like that anymore.
    • If you’re concerned about persistent snoopers (or perhaps even stalkers) don’t use the “friends of friends” setting at all. Anyone can just create a dummy profile, become friends with one of your unsuspecting friends, and then gain access to your profile.
    • If you only want some of your friends seeing some parts of your profiles (like if you don’t want to deny your mom’s friend request but you also don’t want her to see your profanity-ridden updates), use the “Customize” option.
      • If you only want a handful of people to be able to see that section, choose “Specific People” and list them in the box provided.
      • If you just want to make sure a handful of people don’t see that section, enter their names in the “Hide this from” box. Keep in mind that if you select “Everyone” but add a few people to your “hide” list, they may still be able to access that section outside of Facebook.
      • You can also divide your friends group into lists, so you don’t have to type out the names individually when adjusting these settings, and you only have to update the friends list, not the privacy settings. Just go to your friends page (accessed by clicking “Friends” at the top” and click on the small “Create” link on the left. A good guideline is to create a list of people who you feel comfortable sharing your complete profile with, and writing the name of that group in the “Specific People” box in the settings.
      • You can also select “Only Me” if you don’t want anybody to see that part of your profile, but in that case it’s better to just leave that part of your profile blank.
  4. Test your settings with the “Preview my Profile” button. It’s located on the upper right of the page.Want to see how much your dad can see of you profile now? Enter his name in the box and press “Enter” on your keyboard. Then poke around.

Applications and Websites

  1. Select “Applications and Websites” from the privacy settings page.
  2. For “What your friends can share about you” click “Edit Settings”. Uncheck anything that you don’t want posted on your friends’ profiles through applications. Unless you can think of a specific reason, it’s a good idea to uncheck everything and click “Save Changes”.
    • This is really the only section that deals with privacy. “Blocked Applications” and “Ignore Application Invites” have more to do with being annoyed by application invites and notifications, rather than controlling your privacy.

Search

  1. Click on “Search” from the privacy settings page.
  2. For “Facebook Search Results” choose who can find you by searching on Facebook. Note that a person doesn’t have to have a Facebook account in order to search for (and find) your profile on Facebook.
  3. For “Public Search Results” uncheck “Allow Indexing” . However your profile and Friends List still appears on Search Engines. Within Facebook, you cannot prevent your friends list and profile (at least the information Facebook wants the public to have) from appearing in search results on Google, Bing and Yahoo. We are hoping this changes.

Tips

  • Now you also have the option of controlling the privacy of your updates by the individual update, in addition to by default. Just click on the little lock next to the “Share” button when you post an update. This is good for when, say, you have it so that your boss can’t see your updates, but there’s one or a few that are okay for him to see.
  • Remember that even though you can control what people see on your profile, you can’t always control what people see on others’ profiles. In other words, whatever you post on someone else’s page is viewable based on their privacy settings, not yours. In other words, don’t leave dirty comments on other people’s walls or pictures unless you’re 100% sure they’re on top of their privacy settings, or else those comments might come back to haunt you on search engines.

Related wikiHows

Sources and Citations

  1. http://www.techcrunch.com/2009/12/09/facebook-privacy/

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Chili’s?

Someone I know who works for Chili’s, asked me to write a review of their new menu. That was a hard one….

We’ve been eating at Chili’s since they opened here over 10 years ago. We use to eat there so often that the staff all knew us (not as bad as a buddy of mine who gets invited to their baby showers etc.). We usually order the same things. I get Chicken Caesar Salad (atkinsized- no croûtons/ranch dressing), my daughter gets the Chicken Cajun Pasta/salad, hubby waffles between Chicken Cajun Pasta and a few other things, son gets the most expensive burger that he can order/salad.

My review is like this. The changes to the menu were okay except for the dinner salad. Why on earth would they put corn in the salad? People who order salad do not want a starchy vegetable thrown into it. I cannot even imagine how many of these dinner salads were sent back. Dumb idea. I also think they should have stuck to their recession inspired deals. It’s just a bit too pricey for many families.  The service, the cleanliness, the Diet Coke and chip refills still rock!

So anyway, I’m giving away a $50 Chili’s giftcard if you are interested.

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Welcome to Monday Mayhem.

This week’s meme is called “What are you thinking”?
For each scenario, give your interpretation of what the person may have been thinking.
Have fun!

1. The person with 40 items in the 12 items or less line.
That they are special and the world revolves around them. Nice people like us are always bailing them out. We need to join forces and put an end this crud.



2. The driver who is smoking and talking on a cell phone while driving.

They too believe that the world is revolving around them. They also believe that they are immune from being the idiot who causes an accident and ruins someone else’s car.


3. The father with 8 children and a TV show who cheats on his wife…over and over again…
He’s thinking that he’s 18 and can do what ever he wants to do. News flash, you’re not…


4. Facebook and their security features.
See way above in this post.

5. Heidi Montag
She seems pretty warped.


6. People who attempt to sell Viagra via spam comments.
Like the jerk who is up to 63 bans on my site?



7. Those wonderful shoppers who catch up on their phone calls while shopping.
They too are a very special kind of people.



8.People who find themselves on the People of Walmart website.
46



Britney Spears let herself go…….again.
Kentucky (photo from People of Walmart.com)

I don’t even think they know what’s going on or that they have wound up one the site/featured in numerous emails.

9. People who just can be stupid….



From Whitetrashrepairs.com

Too much cheap beer I guess.

10. People with multiple-multiple piercings.
OUCH!

11. Blog Stalkers

They are often the ones who are thinking about their next refill.


12. In-laws who are controlling or bossie.

They know so much more than we do which is why their loved one could not wait get away from them and  get hooked up with us.


13. People who use or wear  items and then attempt to return them.

I once saw a guy try to return a used carburetor in the box that he bought the new one in. I know this is dating…..

14. You share one with us :)


People who think that just because they are/were a huge sports star means they could get away with murder. And he did……thank goodness for Karma.

My apologies to those who were not able to post on last week’s linky. I’m back on Linky this week . Thanks for playing!
Have a great week!




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This person had something amazing to say! 1 Thom May 16, 2010 at 1:58 pm

It’s about time you are back on Mr. Linky. Yeah!!! That murdering turd. I hope he rots that pig. I was so waiting to see what you said about your boy…you went easy on him. Another pffft. LOL you so madey whole point on FB why I reactivated my account I’ll never know. But you gave great info on setting the privacy settings. You didn’t see my post where I called you the bomb! Pffft number 3 LOL
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This person had something amazing to say! 2 Leather Case May 16, 2010 at 8:17 pm

Hi! Am sorry since you’re using quickdrop and so there’s no chance at all for you to drop back at my site because I’m not a member and would never be coz I hate the system. This is my last visit and am advising entrecard members not to support sites using quickdrop or any similar device.
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This person had something amazing to say! 3 Lydia @ On The Verge May 17, 2010 at 11:21 am

Great info on FB. I am actually considering leaving it with all of these new privacy issues.
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This person had something amazing to say! 4 bingkee May 17, 2010 at 12:24 pm

Hi Leather Case, how do you know who’s using Quick Drop…please let me know too so I will no longer drop on those sites.
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This person had something amazing to say! 5 Shydub May 17, 2010 at 5:14 pm

I like all your answers Harriet especially what you shared in #14. They should get in prison.
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This person had something amazing to say! 6 Bud Weiser May 18, 2010 at 2:19 pm

Boy, is “ouch” right!

This person had something amazing to say! 7 Your BFF May 19, 2010 at 2:19 pm

I told you DON”T bring your camera to Walmart and take pics of me! My new rug is quite nice though, isn’t it?
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