How many times have you DONE THIS!!!!! in an email?
The folks at Career Builders say it’s “Email Rage”.
They say it’s because “today we’re more wired to snap — especially when using computer keyboards. There’s even a physiological trigger pulling us into e-mail shootouts; it’s called “e-mail apnea.”
Before you fire off that e-mail, try these tips:
Back away from the computer
Resisting the urge to just “let someone have it” is a sign of self-control and adds points to your reputation. You also raise what I call your “CQ score” of communication intelligence by responding versus reacting.
Do not put a name or CC’s in address bar
We all need to vent, and e-mail is an instant venting machine. Just don’t set yourself up to be fired by what you write when you’re fired up about something. Write it, delete it or park it in your draft box.
Ask someone to (confidentially) give you perspective that you can’t see when you’re blindsided or when you’re positive you’re right and someone else is wrong. You might be right and win the battle but lose the war. The damage, however, isn’t easily undone once you hit the send button.
Give people the benefit of the doubt
We often assume we know what someone meant or intended. I call that “assumitis.” Instead, rephrase it (in person or via e-mail) using your own words. You’ll learn more and increase your CQ as well as your ability to be more responsive and less reactive by surfacing what’s between the lines (without instantly explaining or defending yourself).
Adopt a get curious outlook
Ask, “What am I really reacting to? What’s driving the other person to do this?” Then call or go see them in person. Begin by appreciating how easy it is to be misunderstood. Acknowledge that aggravations can pile up and trigger an e-mail volley that leaves a trail that can cost you both long after you wished you’d paused to ask yourself, “What don’t I know I don’t know?”
Sunday Stealing: The Just Because Meme
1. Make a list of 5 things you can see without getting up.
My computer monitor, My computer keyboard, logs of papers, my Zero, and a pen. Whoopie!!
2. How do you style your hair? How often do you cut it?
Style? Today I washed it an put it up. It’s going to be hot and humid. I pay someone $$$ to cut my hair for me.
3. What are you wearing now?
Is this one of those weekly questions?
T shirt and shorts over my undergarments.
4. What’s your occupation? Do you like it?
Goddess of the memes. It pays ever so well! The benefits rock!
5. When was the last time that you took a nap? Was there a special reason?
Last night. We were coming home late from an all-day affair and driving in the dark through corn fields.
6. Who was the last person you hugged romantically?
Romantically? I’ve been married for 25 years.
8. What was the last full meal that you ate?
Bar food at a reception.
9. What was the last email that you received?
Weenie612 told me I won the Swiss lotto again. I think. It was in Korean.
10. What one website do you always visit when you go online?
11. What was the last significant thing you bought?
Stuff to sell.
12. What musical artist did you not get at first, but then became a fan?
Black Eye Peas.
13. What do you think about before you go to bed last night?
How friggin’ tired I was.
14. What was the last CD you bought?
15. What is your favorite weather, and why? What’s the weather like today?
Who cares? It’s hot and humid with a possibility of rain…l.just like every Memorial Day weekend.
16. If you could have a special artistic talent, what would it be?
Making pencil etchings over pennies. Wow!
17. Did you watch the Idol 9 finale? If yes, what are your thoughts?
Nope. Isn’t this suppose to be a stolen meme?
18. What’s something you’d like to say to someone right now?
When is this thing ending?
19. Any special plans for this (holiday in the States) weekend?
Finishing this meme.
20. Besides your current S/O, who was the last person that you loved romantically?
I’m thinking you’re not getting this……